NRI marriages and Rape/Sex Trafficking

NRI Marriages: 

America is a country of dreams and the land of opportunities. There was a time when people would like to pay any cost to be here as it eventually turned into a status symbol. At one point of time I felt as if this would be one of the mandatory fields in the matrimonial sites. As it’s important for a girl to be slim and fair I think it became a necessity for a guy to have a US visa stamp on his passport. Marriage gives a feeling of security and a hope of being loved and cared by someone. Although it’s really sad the way feelings are brutalized these days. I would like to educate the parents and guardians of our country that marrying their daughter to a guy who holds a visa is really not a great deal for their daughter’s happiness. Getting an identity and respect is not an easy ride in a strange country. Every girl is not fortunate enough to get a supportive family and friends. Ever since I have got associated to this cause I have been trying my best to reach out to different sources to find a solution and get them accepted by our society. Due to the strange laws of the country you only get to be with our partner as a dependent and the role or responsibility we play is to take care of their house, do the laundry, dishes, groceries etc… Most of them are educated and were working before the marriage and if you would like to know why they got married, it was only because they are assured that they would continue doing the same. But unfortunately they are here just to facilitate their partner’s needs and once they feel it’s time for a change they are served with a piece of paper which states the end of the relationship. And surprisingly the strange laws of the country are never straight and easy. They want to come back and live a normal life but the probability of sarcastic remarks by our society and negligence just heap up the pain due to which they lose the confidence and morale. Even an educated, confident and pretty independent girl would not be able to take this storm and get carried away.

Rape/Sex Trafficking:

I read shocking news on all the major online news channels every day that a son-in-law raped his mother-in law. A school principal raped a 6 grade/class girl. A father has raped his daughter. All the relations I mentioned are termed to be the most safe and respectful. If we are not safe in the hands of our creators then who do we look forward to? Recently there was news that the reason of such incidents is the reveling dresses which are worn by the girls today but what about the Gurgaon incident where a woman was raped who was 7 months pregnant. What did the patient do in the hospital that a ward boy is forced to quench his thirst at that moment where a person is struggling for her life and death. Hats off to a country where the girls are raped and then if the cops take an action they are either transferred or terminated.

Is it true that even after 64 yrs. 9 months and 27 days of our country’s independence we are still morons and have no sense of respect and gratitude towards the creators of our life? A country where female god is worshiped in various forms, yet the women (wife, daughter, sister, mother etc…) is treated so brutally. 

On behalf of all the women I would like to ask is our identity confined only around the four walls of the bedroom.