Pursuit of Life!!!

“I dream of a company with whom I wish I could sleep out at the terrace watching the stars while the whole world sleeps beneath us”.

Nothing can be more soothing to the ear than the very sound of life. My all time favourite destination would be my life not just because of the reason that who I’m today but because of the experience I gained and the people I met on this journey. Memories are the strongest survivors; it can be alive even in the closed heart and mind. When god created humans he did the packaging with bundles of emotions. And as emotions is a baggage of expectations, every feeling hold a special value. It’s just how well you present and is the person worth it on whom you plan to invest. Else it just ends up with disappointment and regret. I recently met a person and when she shared her struggle I felt a painful tightening in the chest as if I was being squeezed by the ugly memory of the past.

Life has its unique style of treating you sometimes it simply puts you off on a back seat window to gaze the life around you. This girl came to this country few years back with her bag full of dreams but suddenly six months later she found herself in the hospital around the doctors performing all kinds of test. She was asked to provide the name and number of a family member who currently reside in America. Fortunately she had one of her relative which was called immediately and was informed that she has stomach cancer third stage (stage 3B) which had spread from ovaries up to some gland called peritoneum (lining of the abdominal cavity). She has been very week throughout and on to it now she had to go through rigorous chemotherapy. Fighting with your loved ones is any day better than their silence. Believe me there’s no worst experience of pain then watching your kid dying in front of your eyes every day. They are the ones who carry us in their arms for years. Go through all the embarrassment, torture, and sacrifice.

Death is just a final destiny of every human life which is inevitable and need to be faced by one and all but then why are we scared? Sometimes people die due to silliest reasons like slipping in the bathroom can prove fatal or even a road accident where you need not even be involved to get killed. Then why are we so scared just of the feeling of getting hurt. But if we all reflect to our life aren’t we already hurting ourselves by not doing what we actually want in life by living a life for people around you when you don’t even want to be a part of it, haven’t we already killed ourselves. We die every moment we procrastinate our dreams; the moment we compromise in our life; the constant struggle of adjustment in a relation where no emotion is alive and people live with them under the same roof but simply with the memories of past. So in a true sense we are surrounded with all dead people who claim to be alive.   

She often questioned herself whether she would ever live a normal life; will she be able to meet her friends. After two months of treatment one day while she was waiting for the doctor in the hallway she looked outside the window and watched the sunset it felt as if the earth was being painted every couple of minutes in different shades. Tic-Tac’s her heart jumped at the sound. She turned around to see the boy holding out a container of orange Tic-Tac’s, waiting for her response. The girl replied try to think straight “Thanks” she hold out her hand and he drops a couple in the palm.

The girl asked “Does this line usually work?”

The boy replied “No, actually, it normally has the opposite effect” he smiles.

Leaning back the boy asked how long you have been here

Girl responded I guess you have an experience on the matter.

The boy replied just three years worth, the boy responded as if it’s no big deal.

The boy asked “what are you waiting for?”

The girl replied my blood test results doctors are going to tell me if I’ll live until I’m old or if I’m going to die in three months.

Boy asked so did you start the bucket list

Girl replied it’s the last thing I expected to hear.

Then suddenly he said then you go out on a date with me it’s half question and half suggestion. The girls was confused she said “why would you want that”

Boy replied “why wouldn’t I?”

Girl said “because I might be dead in three months. Doesn’t that matter?”

Boy shakes his head and actually smiles and says “I don’t care, “his voice slightly croaking.

Girl said “you must care. What if I die?”

Boy immediately responded then I’ll spend every day with you until you do. I’ve never met anyone like you, and I feel if I don’t see more of you, that I’ll be missing something. Give me a chance”

There’s only one word she could possibly give him “Yes”

She was no longer scared of death. She thought “If I die or don’t die, it’ll all end the same way, but at least I know someone will give me a chance either way”. She was not afraid as she was no longer alone.

If you are scared of getting wet you can never enjoy the rain to enjoy life at times you need to take risk how can you feel fast wind when you don’t dare to ride a fast bike. It just adds the wings of freedom a sense of independence. A dog never measures you on the scale of your looks and money. They don’t care whether you are smart or dull, clever or dumb, beautiful or ugly. Give him your heart and he’ll give you his. Humans have lost the ability to win heart as they are so engrossed in achieving their targets. Has any person in your life made you feel rare, pure, extra ordinary and special?  
“Every trade has an expiration tag so is love so never blame a person for the way he treated you as you opted for the pain in exchange of your heart”.

                                                                                                                                                                

NRI marriages and Rape/Sex Trafficking

NRI Marriages: 

America is a country of dreams and the land of opportunities. There was a time when people would like to pay any cost to be here as it eventually turned into a status symbol. At one point of time I felt as if this would be one of the mandatory fields in the matrimonial sites. As it’s important for a girl to be slim and fair I think it became a necessity for a guy to have a US visa stamp on his passport. Marriage gives a feeling of security and a hope of being loved and cared by someone. Although it’s really sad the way feelings are brutalized these days. I would like to educate the parents and guardians of our country that marrying their daughter to a guy who holds a visa is really not a great deal for their daughter’s happiness. Getting an identity and respect is not an easy ride in a strange country. Every girl is not fortunate enough to get a supportive family and friends. Ever since I have got associated to this cause I have been trying my best to reach out to different sources to find a solution and get them accepted by our society. Due to the strange laws of the country you only get to be with our partner as a dependent and the role or responsibility we play is to take care of their house, do the laundry, dishes, groceries etc… Most of them are educated and were working before the marriage and if you would like to know why they got married, it was only because they are assured that they would continue doing the same. But unfortunately they are here just to facilitate their partner’s needs and once they feel it’s time for a change they are served with a piece of paper which states the end of the relationship. And surprisingly the strange laws of the country are never straight and easy. They want to come back and live a normal life but the probability of sarcastic remarks by our society and negligence just heap up the pain due to which they lose the confidence and morale. Even an educated, confident and pretty independent girl would not be able to take this storm and get carried away.

Rape/Sex Trafficking:

I read shocking news on all the major online news channels every day that a son-in-law raped his mother-in law. A school principal raped a 6 grade/class girl. A father has raped his daughter. All the relations I mentioned are termed to be the most safe and respectful. If we are not safe in the hands of our creators then who do we look forward to? Recently there was news that the reason of such incidents is the reveling dresses which are worn by the girls today but what about the Gurgaon incident where a woman was raped who was 7 months pregnant. What did the patient do in the hospital that a ward boy is forced to quench his thirst at that moment where a person is struggling for her life and death. Hats off to a country where the girls are raped and then if the cops take an action they are either transferred or terminated.

Is it true that even after 64 yrs. 9 months and 27 days of our country’s independence we are still morons and have no sense of respect and gratitude towards the creators of our life? A country where female god is worshiped in various forms, yet the women (wife, daughter, sister, mother etc…) is treated so brutally. 

On behalf of all the women I would like to ask is our identity confined only around the four walls of the bedroom.

For you...

"Sometimes love is for a moment, sometimes love is for a lifetime. Sometimes a moment is a lifetime."

 I feel so delighted about this reunion and treasure every moment spent with you. Sometimes the distance was long and sometimes it seemed like two bodies one soul. I have seen a kid while you dance and a child when you hold me tight. I see a man who asks me to do things right and a hero who stands beside with poise. You love to see me when I’m composed and enjoyed the most when I behave immature. Your lips speak softly and sweetly in my ears and your touch felt angelic. I get lost in your magic and my heart beats heavily within your chest. I think of you each morning and dream of you each night. I think of your arms being around me for which I cannot express my delight. Your gentle brush of fingers sends shivers down my spine. You greet me with a smile and leave me with a kiss. When my loneliness gets me down and I’m so very blue. The way you see my soul and do exactly what I look in you. The moment you come close to me, my beauty starts to bloom and like a pretty butterfly I come out of my cocoon. I long for your arms to have wrapped around me and live to kiss your lips. You have brightened my dark skies and filled my days and nights with stars, hopes, and cascading dreams. The world looks beautiful with your eyes through mine. 

To be thinking of a time when you’d no longer be there is not acceptable to me because I want you in my life always and forever. I didn't know I could love anyone as much as I love you but I know you have arrived; as my heart skips a beat when you walk up to my side. If there were no tomorrow I would tell you: I’ll always cherish your love above all, along with your laughter, love, fun and passion. I vow to love you infinitely, without boundaries, and beyond time. I hope this kind of magic stays forever between US…

Relations an easy ride!!!

The beauty of life walks hand in hand; when you strike the right code of love. The melodious tunes come with a long span of learning and patience. Breaking and betraying is not the solution to mend the relationship. When the water overflows to the brim it causes great damage to the people living around. When life is fury and full of grief’s, it has an urge to gleam with precious happiness, all we need to reach out ourselves to our loved ones putting rest to our excessive pride and ego which cause all the destruction's. As the years of life roll by, we eventually realize that carrying the baggage of these obstructions were valueless and had no proper reason or purpose to be carried on; as the value of happiness was untouched.

To win a heart without making an effort all you need is faith and tolerance as love is an endearing quality. Huge expectations and impractical hopes stain the purity of relationship. The act of trust is the binding glue of relationships. According to me the best expression of gratitude to him was my decision of growing old with him. At one point of time nothing sounded exciting then being in a relation with him, those were the exclusive moments of my life. Manifesting ignorance was his second nature accompanying hurting the feeling repeatedly. Even a single expression of love did his magic loosing me and surrendering my soul. There are people who often forget how someone eases their pain in the most sensitive and difficult moments. Very often I felt as if I’m meant to do my duties and in returns abiding to the status of relationship is the only favor he is obliged too.

We tend to be polite even to person who are nowhere associated to us, then why don’t we take a conscious effort to appreciate and acknowledge the people who are such an integral part of our life. Life has always been more than kind enough to give us several opportunities to craft ourselves from time to time. When the situation goes out of control or isn’t in our favor we forget that we are the true owner who drove the life to this track due to which we see those disastrous moments. It’s human to get hurt when the efforts are not appreciated or recognized.

Love has always been a passionate ingredient for me with the absence of ego and arrogance. It was difficult to live but it feels good to taste success although it seemed to be a very long journey. I have remitted the person long back but certain incidents make you nostalgic. Even after trying my best to evade those saddening thoughts it keeps haunting. I think I was able to achieve what I aimed because I was liege to my dreams. Irrespective of all what happened between us it’s you who has made me realized my inner strength. I’ll be always grateful to you for what I’m today. Don’t change the basic appetite of life; our actions are the face of our emotions and life. I still believe that it is and it will be the best relationship I ever had in my life.

Relations an easy ride!!!

What makes relations imperative? I find it so elusive to get the answer. Why are we sabotaging the relations these days? Is it so easy to deal with emotions?